How much money did you spend on the upkeep of your car this past year?
If you’re like me, it’s more than you care to calculate.
A few weeks ago I asked a mentor of mine, Andy Thrift at Market Street Wealth Management what he does to intentionally love his wife. Here is a paraphrased transcript of that conversation:
Me: “So Andy, what is something you do to show your wife love?”
Andy: “Want to know what I do? One of the most important things you can do for your marriage. I go to a personal counselor.”
Me: “A counselor?”
Andy: “The other day I was getting ready to drop some money on my car that was more than I wanted. But I was ready to do it because it was necessary. It made me think about what I am willing to do to make my car better.
Then I thought about my marriage and being a father and I asked myself ‘If I’m willing to do that for my car, what am I willing to do to make myself a better husband and father?'”
Me: “So you came to the conclusion of going to a counselor?”
Andy: “There are things about me as a man, husband, and father that I don’t like and want to change. Some of these things go as far back as my childhood. I want to get the smartest person I can in a room with me to help me with that, even if it costs $100 a session, to me and my family it’s worth it.”
The reality is that we might not be aware of all of our personal issues, but they do impact our marriage and our relationships. There might not be a better investment we can make in our marriage than getting someone to help us make a difference. Can’t put a price tag on that.
It’s scary….but I’m in to try it, are you?